|Photo by Casey Mullins, aka @mooshinindy|
I knew I had to make some changes with the way I identified myself. In many ways I had become my job. It wasn't healthy and it certainly wasn't feeding my soul. I wasn't thinking of ways to stand out as much as I was thinking of ways to garner approval from co-workers and and boss. You may think, "there's nothing wrong with that." There was for me, though. I felt that my creativity was based on getting the green light from others at work.
Since having baby #4, I've started to rethink things. One of the people who have influenced me is Danielle LaPorte. I never really paid much attention to her and her ideas until I saw her at the Startup Princess Touchpoint event this fall. Her keynote speech had some nuggets of wisdom in it that bear repeating for anyone who wants to make the most out of their life. She asks you to ask yourself a series of questions. The question I keep coming back to is: What do you want to stop doing?
She suggests making a "no" list in your life. Danielle recommends saying "no" 80% of the time. That's hard to swallow for all the people pleasers out there. I guess I'm one of them...and I always thought I wasn't. I have a hard time saying "no" to people and obligations I think I should be able to find time to do.
Without editing or over thinking this, I've made up this list of things I'd like to say "no" to. They are in no particular order. These things are going to be hard for me to stop doing.
- Being in a rush.
- Buying my children too many gifts for Christmas.
- Waiting for someone else to clean my car.
- Wasting time on Facebook.
- Staying up past 11pm.
- Postponing taking a vacation until the perfect time (or until the money to do so lands in my lap).
- Throwing more money towards bills than towards savings.
- Putting too many things on my "to do" list.
- Getting emotional when my kids say hurtful things.
- Reading more than one book at a time.
- Worrying about things I can't control.